Ashton Kutcher, in all his fine-fashion-sense, restaurant-owning, kaballah-worshipping, cougar-loving, dude-where's-my-car and punk'd glory, is a total babe.
(Any man comfortable enough with their masculinity to wear a scarf is a babe, yes even old Italian men)
Here, he goes all Betty Friedan on us in Harper's Bazaar and discusses why he loves the ladies.
The Rules of Attraction
The list of things that make a woman desirable is endless. The trick is knowing the things that do not.
"I love women. I like the way they think, the way they care. I like the way they flirt by flipping their hair. I am enchanted by their precision and persistence. The ability they have to maneuver through life reminds me of a cat on a mantelpiece navigating around trinkets, photo frames, and flowers. I'm astounded by the feminine pain threshold (I've witnessed childbirth), fragility (PMS is a bitch), and strength (my sister used to beat me up). In fact, the only way I can really share what makes a woman attractive is to describe the few things that don't.
COMMON SCENTS
If I can smell your perfume and we're not making out, you're wearing too much. More of a lot of things in life is better. Perfume does not apply. Have you ever stood in an elevator waiting for the doors to open so that a fragrant person will get off and you can breathe again? Don't be that woman.
TRASH TALKING
People who speak negatively about others attract the same in kind, and I don't want to be near it. Nothing is sexier than a woman who is confident enough to compliment others (and nothing is more gratifying to another woman than to be the recipient of such a compliment — especially about her shoes).
TRUTH IN ADVERTISING
Dress how you want to be treated. If you show respect for yourself, you will be respected. I like seeing a female body as much as the next guy, but a midriff on display does not do it for me. By the same token, sexlessness is just that. I call it the Hillary Clinton look. She would be so much more appealing if she just took off the pantsuit, took a lesson from Jackie Kennedy, and found her own Oleg Cassini.
JEWELRY JUNKIES
Women who wear big blingin' stones don't look like they have a lot of money; they look like they have a lot of someone else's money. I don't want my woman looking like she got bedazzled. On the other hand, it's really hot when you're dressed up but wearing a cheap little bracelet. It shows you don't take yourself too seriously.
LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE
The most unattractive thing in the world is selfishness. Don't worry about what you are getting; worry about what you're giving. Always show appreciation. Women who focus on what they don't have are unattractive and attract unattractive people.
BRAND DROPPING
Have you ever heard someone say, "Do you like my new Prada sweater?" Broadcasting labels to make people appreciate your style is not becoming. The truth is that most guys don't know what a Birkin bag looks like, and they couldn't pick a pair of Christian Louboutins out of a lineup. All that matters is how something looks on you — and if a guy can identify the brand, you've found your fashion soul mate. And, yes, I do like your sweater. Who made it? You can tell me now.
The key to letting everyone else see just how irresistible you are is knowing it yourself. Go outside your comfort zone. If you're comfortable showing the whole package, show a little less. If you're not, show a little more. If talking around big groups is tough, put yourself out there. If it's easy, hold back. It works both ways.
After that, it's all about having a little restraint. Some would call it mystery. That's attractive."
(copyright Hearst Publications, 2008)
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