In honor of this genius movie coming out soon (watch the trailer!) based on this book, I will rant...
But- from the perspective of a girl who has never had a relationship to even come to a point of discerning whether a man was "into" me or not....
Exhibit A:
I don't believe women should have to be proactive in the first stages of a potential "courtship," namely, the wooing phase.
You could say I'm "traditional," but really, even with all our post-feminist wisdom and intellectually progressive society, shouldn't it STILL be the way it's supposed to be!?
We women are the smarter, more inquisitive, more attractive species. We manage companies (Cathie Black- I want to be her, for the record), we rule countries (Benazir Bhutto), for goodness sakes...we run households and mold the minds of the future!!!
It's really the very least men can do to ask women out.
Feminist or not, if a guy doesn't have the confidence to ask you out in the first place, how much confidence can you have in any potential of him taking ANY initiative in however long you end up being together?
Quite honestly, I think "flirty girls" are only ultimately doing a disservice to themselves, and looking ridiculous and unbecoming while they're at it.
I really don't understand the whole 'suffocating a guy with your attention to get him to like you.' Maybe you say smugly, well, it's apparent she's ranting because she's bitter that being 'hard to get' is not working for her.
But, frankly, girls I know who have 'thrown themselves' at their exes or current boyfriends/husbands- have the most pathetic relationships anyway.
The funny thing is, I'm really not that hard to get, I'm just secure in myself, and I suppose that scares most of the opposite sex selection I have here in Happy Valley.
I came to BYU with every good LDS girl's notion that, after waiting out the hormonally-charged existential teen years as one of the only Mormon kids at your high school, finally here was the time when cute clean-cut Mormon boys were going to be beating down my door for attention, time and dates.
For the record, TIS NOT TRUE.
Perhaps in the 1970s, yes, but I don't know if you've noticed, but it's the 21st century.
My mom did not go to BYU and guys knew she wasn't going to sleep with them, but that didn't stop them from asking her out and delivering her flowers.
Like every weekend.
Nowadays, at any other college other than BYU, you have to sleep with a guy at or after a party before he will consider dating you. Consider.
I suppose delivering cookies to doorsteps of crushes is the BYU equivalent of sleeping with a guy at a party. He'll eat your cookies, and then possibly consider you.
I'm grateful to the feminist movement to some degree, but I can't help but think it's backfired in some areas.
Because I'm quite baffled and disappointed by this silly dating scene, but I also know that I'm well worth the challenge.
2 footnotes:
I COMPLETELY AGREE. these men need to step it up. it's really THE LEAST they could do, and i wish they would do the least. they wait until they "are ready" to ask a girl out...once they're done getting all of their hormonal issues out with the girls that FLING themselves at them...and then before they know it, they're 28 and don't know how to date. oops....
like i said earlier: "love is overrated"
case in point: my roommate that doesn't know how to hold a conversation about anything else BUT her boyfriend.
Ok...I say we make a sequel to "He's just not that into you" and say "How can he be into you if you're pathetic enough to throw yourself at anything with a Y chromosome"
The title could be a bit more succinct, but like all good stories...that comes last.
Basics are, you should fight for the person you love and then when life gets dull and dreary and your yoga teacher is looking ridiculously tempting you'll have no desire because you're with the person you chose.
It's not a first come, first serve basis people. Get a clue.
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